The first step is to understanding. It is very easy for you to connect losing the feelings of being in love with actually loving each other when it is no longer the case. After their dating days have ended, the couples no longer feel the same excitement and sexual attachment as before.
Unlike dating, there are more commitments and responsibilities in marriage. Unlike those you face in school and work, these will be what we need to face for the next 10, 20 or even 30 years down the road and even more so when you have children.
Love is more than just being fond of that person and expressing your feelings for him or her. It is all about caring, sharing and even sacrificing everything you have if the situation requires be it from your spouse, children or both. That includes the things you love and freedom you cherish during your single days.
Every single thing you do be it work, spending money and even hobbies, you need to take their feelings into consideration. Such as telling and discussing with them even though there is a possibility of them not agreeing with you all the time.
It is never easy but this is what love is really all about whether you agree with what I just mentioned or not. If you cannot forsake certain things like playing video games, watching movies and shopping, then marriage and even parenthood is not for you.
Even when you have a steady stream of regular and passive income, you still need to set aside some time for your spouse and children. Not once or twice a week but every single day.
Every relationship has 4 stages as in falling in love, honeymoon bliss, disagreements and then being stronger or weaker in marriages.
Just because we find fault with each other, it is very easy for positive feelings to fade. It takes proper understanding or even dire circumstances - when we are forced to work together – to build our relationship all over again.
Love is a commitment and responsibility. You cannot just express verbally but through actions and sacrifices I already mentioned. Mature couples love each other as a whole and not by looks and circumstances alone.
The next step is to spend quality time talking and listening to your spouse. If you both do not talk, it is very hard to cultivate feelings for each other and for your relationship to grow further.
Finally, give in to your spouse without expecting anything in return. This will make you a more mature person in the eyes of your spouse.
Understanding, spending time and accommodating are small things that you should do everyday to build trust, intimacy and love with each other.
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